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Love Can’t Exist Without Trust

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Without trust, you’re in for too much pain

You may wonder:

Can love exist without trust?

Here’s my answer to this question:

No. Love can’t exist without trust!

I’m careful to whom, and how I give my trust. Trusting makes me vulnerable. My trust is earned and it’s not given.

Here’s why:

My father left the family when I was a child.

My parents got divorced.

I lived with my mother and saw my father only every other week for a few hours.

When an important person, a father figure, lets us down, that effect reverberates through all our relationships.

This experience in early childhood shook my confidence in men in general and in romantic relationships in particular.


Don’t sell yourself short

Famous marriage expert, John Gottman investigated why couples get stuck in ongoing conflict instead of moving on.

He found that the most important issue is trust!

Trust is Number 1.

In my opinion, in a relationship, you have to seed your plants of trust from day one and continually water them.

One day they will flourish and bloom in bright and wonderful colors.

It’s not going to work without trust.

Without trust, you have nothing to hold onto. Without trust your never going to have anything that’s worth fighting for.

You are going to sell yourself short.

You are in for too much pain if you are staying with someone you don’t trust.


You have nothing without trust

My ex-boyfriend is a gorgeous and famous German musician.

As I listened to his piano music one day in the past, I just couldn’t take my eyes off this fascinating man who mesmerized the whole room with such impressive ease.

Backstage, he was charming, he gave me the feeling of being something special.

He was attentive and passionate and so I let myself in for a wonderful and painful love.

One day, he violated my trust.

Looking back I know violating one’s trust means:

I don’t respect you. I don’t care about you.

Someone that truly cares about you will want your trust and will continue to keep your trust.


Final Takeaways

Trust is a must for a stable and reliable relationship.

You have nothing without trust.

If you don’t want to get stuck one day in your love relationship seed your plants of trust from day one and continually water them.

One day they will flourish and bloom in bright and wonderful colors.

© Kristina God



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