Although by beauty standards, they don’t
I found a Reddit group stating:
Bikinis just don’t look nice on plus-size women. They just shouldn’t wear them.
So women above size 4 should never wear a bikini or what?
As women, we face so much body image crap.
You’re not deserving a man as good-looking as yours!
When TikToker, a self-love activist and curvy woman Alicia McCarvell shared a video of her and her husband getting ready for a wedding, she didn’t really expect the flood of messages and shares it inspired.
In fact, her video reached 24 million views.
Unfortunately, there were a lot of commentators questioning their relationship and if she was deserving of a man as good-looking as her hubby.
(Because) by beauty standards, we don’t make sense (…), Alicia shares.
Watch Mrs. Curvy’s statement about her relationship with Mr. Sixpack:
Well, there are people out there who even say that women above size 4 should never wear a bikini at the beach.
Why should a curvy girl deserve to get Mr. Sixpack?
There’s another crazy story about Jenna Leigh Kutcher.
She’s a wedding photographer, Instagram superstar, and entrepreneur.
She shared a photo on Instagram walking on a Hawaiian beach with her hubby, Drew— both in their swimsuits.
Holding hands and kissing.
Her post went viral, too…
… because she’s sharing that she had received a direct message from a body-shamer wondering how Jenna could land a guy as beautiful as Drew.
Here’s Jenna’s frank and touching statement:
Part of my insecurity with my body has stemmed around being married to Mr. 6-Pack himself. Why should I, a curvy girl get him? I feel unworthy and when I write narratives in my head that because I am not thin, I don’t deserve him.
This man has embraced every curve, every dimple, pound and pimple for the last ten years and has always me reminded me that I’m beautiful even when my inner dialogue doesn’t match.
So yes, my thighs kiss, my arms are big, and my bum is bumpy but there is just more of me for him to love and I chose the man that could handle alllll that (and so much more!) (….)
I am so much more than my body, so is he, and so are you.
He deserves someone more traditionally attractive!
Medium writer Melinda “Millie” K. Dooley shared in response to my post Your Size Has A Huge Impact On Your Relationship and Love Life:
I’m fat, and my husband is chubby, and sometimes I feel like he “deserves” someone more traditionally attractive… but he loves me, and I should just take yes for an answer. (…)
I recently visited a beach and felt like I was the only fat person around, and was extra self-conscious about my two-piece swim suit.
Tabria Majors’ colorful plus-size swim collection.
Based on Millie’s comment, as an inspiration, I shared with her that I’ve heard that Tabria Majors, who’s a body-positive advocate, co-designed a plus-size swim collection.
I recently saw her colorful video on Instagram.
Why do I love this new self-love, plus-size swim collection, and campaign?
I think it’s really empowering and embraces women of all sizes.
Tabria’s plus-size swim collection with beachwear brand Cupshe features 14 swim styles.
- The collection ranges from $4 to $19.
- It comes in sizes 0X to 3X.
I love this new campaign and collection. It shows what we need to look for and what is uniquely beautiful about us rather than just looking for flaws
We need to remember we are amazing creatures and to revel in the things that make us uniquely beautiful.
Our society has become increasingly extreme in its adoration of the superficial.
Plus, very judgmental when others don’t meet beauty standards established through the media.
No matter what size you wear, don’t listen to negative comments from haters and body-shamers.
You are beautiful inside and out!
You are worthy of being loved the way you are!
As Jenna Kutcher stated:
“(…) we’re so much more than our bodies!”
“There is no wrong way to be a woman!”
Amen to that!
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